Originally Posted by
B6Lovin
i understand that, and i know you understand it. i just don't have patience enough for the people in my life that really matter - let enough morons on the internet whom i've never met. there are people on this site that i consider friends - people who i would let stay in my house, eat my food, and that i'd really do anything within reason to help... so don't take it as a completely impersonal stab at the fabric of the community. there are bonds beyond the keyboard for a lot of people here and i'm not trying to take away from that.
i just think that people like this have never been put in their place. i've seen it my whole life, and its terrible and stupid. to me "yelling" at greg for giving advice is just as bad as the kids i grew up around who bitched about getting a lexus instead of a benz. we've all seen the type, and i for one will not let that be the stereotype of people who own and drive the type of car i do. (afterall, i take a LOT of pride in my car and the people i'm around most often associate people by what they drive.. nobody wants to be the dumb ricer, and nobody wants to be the snobbish euro owner)
i remember your brief spat with dean, and i know exactly what you mean. i guess i'm just too strong willed (or hard headed) to really care what this guy thinks of me after the fact. he has yet to even remotely admit that he was wrong in any light, and even went so far as to sarcastically accuse greg of being the thief. again, might be how/where i was raised - but you don't just cut down someone's character like that in any type of open or public area ESPECIALLY when they've JUST tried to help you out. it's a slap in the face and it's a million times more uncalled for than any mis-read statement about young people parking in dumb parts of town.
even from the few times i've talked to greg (over more than just the internet) i know that he deserves more respect than that. things like this are the reason why people like john (diagnosticator) and others don't post as often (or in some cases, at all) anymore. they feel that their advice is under-appreciated and often disregarded by the very people asking for it.
We have the same mentality when it comes to this kind of stuff. I know exactly how you feel. I'm not usually the type to take a backseat in an argument, i'm just the same when it comes to being hard headed. I don't know how many times i've put someone in their place without thinking twice, and 90% of the time it's worked out.
And i agree about the disrespect of advice. A lot of times the people asking advice don't always take it and it is frustrating. Sometimes they are only looking for what they want to hear. And not always do they get that. And I agree that people like John, Greg, Dean, Mike, Anthony, and Doug are posting a lot more sparingly, even since i've been on here, which isn't a very long time compared to some of you senior members. And they seem to be posting the majority of their help in threads started by people they respect because they know their opinions will be listened to. And i don't blame them. I was only a couple months ahead of the huge rush of new members we've had. I can see why this has been irritating. That's why my amount of posts has decreased as well. I've been less and less motivated to sit here and read through everything and post my input because it's been slowly getting to the point where it feels like it's not even being read or considered anymore. I feel like just another contribution to the number of posts. So i've been trying my best to not just be another new member and actually contribute to the community.
I feel like this could be to the point where it might get out of control with too many members disrespecting one another. I've seen more heated arguments recently, in the last month or so, than the first 4 or 5 months i was on here in total. Not having been on here for a long period of time i even see it myself, and i feel just like you that it's taking away from what the forums were made for in the first place.
And i agree with your previous statement when you said, "what business do you have on these forums other than the fact that you have an a4?". That thought seems to be more and more common these days. And if it weren't for previous existing relationships that people have on here i probably would be more worried about the personal fabric of the site. But i know i always have those good guys to turn to for advice if i need it. And i would like to think they would like to help me out even though i don't know anyone here personally, with the exception of john.
But i think all we can do is ignore the OP and let him make his enemies and find out he won't get help that way.
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