I would like to change the default behavior of a couple of features. Not sure if possible..

Heated seats:
- It looks like that my car remembers the last setting for heated seats prior switching off the car when turning it on the next time.
- I would like the heated seats not to remember last state, rather always start with turned off.

Fog lights:
- I would like the fog lights to stay on based on the headlights on and the switched depressed. I had other cars where the fog light was more a toggle switch. Not sure if this is possible with the Audi button?

In order to accomplish things like this do I need http://www.ross-tech.com/vag-com/ or Dealer, or some other hidden menu/configuration?